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Written by a Muslim brother, for a nationwide
essay competition in Canada. Needless to say, he took the first
prize.
A few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who was new
to our small town. From the beginning, Das was fascinated with this
enchanting newcomer, and soon invited him to live with our family.
The stranger was quickly accepted and was around to welcome me into
the world a few months later.
As I grew up, I never questioned his place in our family. In my
young mind, each member had a special niche. My brother, Bilal,
five years my senior, was my example. Fatimah, my younger sister,
gave me an opportunity to play big brother and develop the
art of teasing. My parents were complementary instructors- Mom taught
me to love the word of Allah, and Dad taught me to obey it.
But the stranger was our storyteller. He could weave the most fascinating
tales. Adventures, mysteries, and comedies were daily conversations.
He could hold our whole family spell-bound for hours each evening.
If I wanted to know about politics, history, or science, he knew
it.
He knew about the past, understood the present, and seemingly could
predict the future. The pictures he could draw were so life like
that I would often laugh or cry as I watched. He was like a friend
to the whole family. He took Dad, Bilal, and me to our first major
league baseball game. He was always encouraging us to see the movies
and he even made arrangements to introduce us to several movie stars
The stranger was an incessant talker. Dad didnt seem to mind
but sometimes Mom would quietly get up while the rest of us were
enthralled with one of his stories of faraway places, go to her
room, and read her Quran and pray. I wonder now if she ever
prayed that the stranger would leave.
You see, my dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions.
But this stranger never felt an obligation to honor them. Profanity,
for example, was not allowed in our house-not for some of us, from
our friends, or adults.
Our longtime visitor, however, used occasional four letter words
that turned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge, the stranger
was never confronted. My dad was a teetotaler who didnt permit
alcohol in his home, as good Muslims should. But the stranger felt
like we needed exposure and enlightened us to other ways of life.
He offered us beer and other alcoholic beverages often.
He made cigarettes look tasty, cigars manly, and pipes distinguished.
He talked freely (probably too much, too freely) about sex. His
comments were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally
embarrassing. I know now that the stranger influenced my early concepts
of the man-woman relationship.
As I look back, I believe it was the grace of Allah that the stranger
did not influence us more. Time after time, he opposed the values
of my parents.
Yet, he was seldom rebuked and never asked to leave. More than
thirty years have passed since the stranger moved in with the young
family on Wangee Road. He is not nearly so intriguing to my Dad
as he was in those early years. But if I were to walk into my parents
den today, you would still see him sitting over in a corner, waiting
for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures
His name you ask? We called him TV.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds,
and make us die in the state of righteousness. (Surah Al- Imran
Ayat 193)
O Allah, let our last days be the best days of our life and our
last deeds be the best deeds, and let the best day be the day we
meet You.
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